Perfectionists are people full of energy, enthusiasm and courage. They look at each other positively and rarely delay making decisions.In life, they are guided by high motivation and maintain high standards of work, which is why they enjoy their skills and predispositions, they also appreciate well-performed duties.This is one theory.
The second indicates that perfectionism can become a trap because a perfectionist makes self-esteem dependent on the goals and successes achieved, poorly tolerates failures and unforeseen circumstances, is not flexible in making changes to his plan and is often dissatisfied with the effects of work, his and others .
Where lies the truth? As usual in the middle, because of how much we try to be perfect, how much it comes to us naturally, and how much we clash to achieve our goal regardless of the possibilities, depends on the effect of our work, satisfaction, well-being and perception of reality.
In this sense, perfectionism can be both healthy and destructive.
Perfectionism takes the joy of life and kills spontaneous actions, and yet the pursuit of perfection evolves, shows high human aspirations, good organization, strong motivation, diligence and enthusiasm, raises self-esteem, allows you to maintain a high standard of work.On the other hand, it can be a cause of frustration, it badly affects our relationships with the environment, tires us and people cooperating with us, can lower our self-esteem and raises fear of criticism.
I have heard more than once about myself that I am a perfectionist, maybe this is how I am sometimes perceived, but I know myself well and I can say with perfection that perfectionism is still far away.Yes, I like to do things thoroughly, I care about the quality of their performance and pay attention to aesthetics, but I do not get crazy if something goes wrong.In addition, I have the audacity to say that perfectionism is not bad as long as it is healthy and meets several conditions:
Far from sloppy
Perfectionism excludes sloppiness, so we can work better, more efficiently and more interestingly.I am sensitive to sloppiness, getting things done and doing things in the basic version. beaker, dragging in time and postponing for better preparation for the task.However, care must be taken that in this context perfectionism does not overshadow the real goal and does not exceed our idea of how the task should be carried out.
Respect your time
Perfectionism takes time, especially if we pay more attention to what the situation requires.Focusing on unnecessary details, we can overlook the most important and ultimately lose a lot of time that we could devote to more important things.I like to stick to my duties, do them as best I can, giving 100%.However, treating all tasks in this way does not fit in time, so I am not able to do them well. Especially if there are a lot of them.
Stress and burnout
When we devote all our time, energy and ingenuity to our work or duties, at some point there is the effect of being lost, and then of burnout, also professional.Stress related to accepting responsibility for your work or willingness to prove yourself can be so great that our relationships with our environment and our health will suffer first.Remember to break away from work and devote at least some of your attention to other aspects of life – hobbies, family, friends, rest.Letting go also brings relief.
It is also worth remembering to control emotions that creep into our everyday lives, because when they reach the zenith, not only stress, but also undesirable conflicts with the environment enter.
Passion or obsession?
Good question. I like to “devote myself” (I don’t like this term) to the task I do, regardless of whether it is my regular occupation or something new.At some point, however, I find myself focusing all my attention on a given topic, neglecting slightly different areas.I assume that if I am to do something right, I must really stick to it. The fear is only that at some point it begins to take on a dangerous size and we work at the expense of our own health.What we do with passion also deserves a rest from us.By maintaining a healthy distance to our passion, we gain a fresh perspective and more creativity.
Right to errors
Fear of making mistakes can be paralyzing for perfectionists, which is why they work beyond their physical and intellectual capabilities at all costs, sometimes by all means. And that’s unhealthy.I have no problem with this approach, because I make mistakes as something completely normal and natural when it comes to personal development and learning or learning new skills.
Besides, isn’t it cool sometimes to make mistakes and not get a headache on it? We learn more about ourselves through mistakes, and this is also part of our development.And one more thing. Each of us knows that there are no perfect people and you can’t be perfect in every field, so let’s take it easy.
I don’t have to be the best
Striving for perfection is not the same as being perfect in every inch.In my opinion, one differs from the other in that the first means our continuous development, improving our skills, using the potential and openness to new things, including changes.The second one is associated with obsessive control of my own emotions and actions and low flexibility, while too much focus on rigid adherence to established frames.
The desire to be (most) better, and self-acceptance in an imperfect version need not be mutually exclusive.However, they can be an additional driving force.
You don’t have to be perfect to love yourself. It opens you to the reality that surrounds you.
Rebellion and change
I assume that I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. If anyone considers us to be perfectionists, there is nothing wrong with it or derogating our dignity.However, sometimes the suggestions of someone from the outside can well affect our actions because of the distance of that person to our work. Sometimes it is worth going beyond the scheme of your activity and find out that a fresh approach to the topic can bring a satisfactory result.So let’s not close ourselves to others and listen to what they have to say about the quality of our work or our perception of the world.This broadens our horizons and is good for our development.
Give others a chance
Perfect people like to work alone, because they are afraid that others will not do the job well enough. Just because we like to do something exactly and according to our plan does not necessarily mean that others are excluded from working with us.Let others do your tasks, help yourself, you can also learn a lot from others. Give yourself and others a chance to develop joint solutions, do not set barriers and unreal bars and don’t expect everyone to meet your work standards.
Keeping balance
Perfectionism is largely learned, so you can work on it so that you can be moderate and common sense.
Personally, apart from satisfaction and a sense of well-fulfilled duty, I like to get pleasure from my classes and work, I value contacts with people very much, that’s why I don’t stop at my best practices and willingly learn from others.
thefemininewordlofcoldwomen 