I have the impression that in the last several days the world has turned upside down. Nothing is as it was. All favorite places are closed, I think I don’t need any survival guides. I don’t need that. Only normality. I think I should look for it with a candle. What is happening now is a serious situation. And completely new. I think we’re still trying to understand what exactly happened.
And while I respect the seriousness of the situation as much as possible, I sit at home, try to follow the recommendations and monitor what is happening … sometimes it’s just too much for me. On news portals – only more cases. On blogs – fifty ways to get bored during quarantine. Human tries to somehow embrace, prepare, function in a new reality and not worry about supply – health, money, work – but he is still bombarded with the same.You can’t forget this damn thing. Even when you don’t want to, you’ll read something about it anyway. I can’t focus on anything because I won’t go there: HE is already there. Mr. coronavirus.
I would like to forget for a moment and think that maybe this new reality is not so bad, because it has a substitute for old normality. It may be the world has turned upside down, but there are things that we know, we like, that do not change.Because I need such normality now.And I have the impression that now even the permanent ones are marked, infected, marked as “useful during a pandemic.”
I wonder … what will it look like? Will we finally be able to live in this situation and do normal things at the same time? Will everything be infected until it’s over?
Mother’s love is the greatest power a woman gets, her strength, wisdom, potential, everything.
Femininity Only a mother can teach us to accept femininity, enjoy it and understand that it is strength. Thank you for never concentrating on my beauty, even though you sometimes said that I was pretty. But so light and warm. Aware that this is a gift that is there today and is not there tomorrow. So I accept that I’m beautiful, less today, more tomorrow. And looking at you I will (I think) know how to grow old, because despite the fact that you are already 60 years old, you are the most beautiful woman I know.
Passions Thanks to you I know that the best mother is one who infects passion, but does not command anything. It allows you to choose, accompanies, but does not criticize. The daughter whom the mother supports – finally comes to what she wants to do in life. Even if that doesn’t match her mother’s dreams. He is not afraid.Thank you for always believing in me. You keep saying that I have talent and sensitivity, which is strength. And even if I don’t have it – I’m strong because of your faith.
Acceptance I know that my various choices were difficult for you. You are so orderly. You still have a good girl in you than a rebellious madman. I rebelled against your “courtesy”. I wanted to annoy you millions of times. And you allowed this rebellion.I felt this acceptance at every step, even when I was drowning and making so many mistakes that others turned away from me. “I’m so hopeless” that I sat in a chair and smoked a cigarette one by one. “You are wonderful, sometimes you are just wrong,” you answered. For you I have always been beautiful, smart and talented. So damn talented, and yet I know I’m not as great as you saw me. But a daughter who has the mother’s acceptance can make decisions that are not in line with the expectations of others. He is honest and accepts his shortcomings.
Care You always threw everything and hugged me.Nothing has ever been more important than me. I didn’t see you carelessly, maybe only a few times, but I don’t even remember, because good memories are much stronger. You have shown me many times that I can count on you.Today I know that the daughter who the mother cares for, knows how to look after others. She is warm, mindful. If not still, then, most of the time. I also feel important to myself. Regardless of what turn it was.
Love and men This is the only sphere where I did not understand you. At least sometime. But you taught me respect for your body and said that love is beautiful and it’s worth the wait. You explained what sex is, that it is strength, power, that everything is fine if two people love each other. I think that thanks to you I love and am loved today. And I know for sure that women sometimes unnecessarily blame themselves for finding bad partners. Thanks to this, their daughters learn that love can be different. And men too. We can choose more or less consciously.
Forgiveness Let it not be that you are the icon and dream of every daughter. You had moments when you made mistakes. Thanks to you I understood that it is not about the mother not making mistakes, but about the possibility of apology and change. Your love has taught me that nothing is just black or white, that people have their weaknesses, that they sometimes behave terribly. But if they want to change – it’s worth forgiving them. Because I’m not perfect either, but that doesn’t mean I’m not cool. I am glad that soon I will have a daughter and I will be able to love her as you love me. Give her so many wonderful things, so much wisdom. Because if I’m somehow clever – it’s only thanks to you. I would like to talk to her like a best friend. With the acceptance that we are two separate beings, and she doesn’t have to sacrifice for me just because I raised her and loved her. Just like you expect anything from me. And you are. Even if sometimes I’m not here.
If every mother were like you – the world would be simpler.
If Oscars were fairly distributed around the world, they would all reach women. Each. No one can play as well as women.
Being a woman is extremely interesting.
On the one hand, you have tenderness, empathy, you can get up at six to make a beloved sandwich, and you are touched when in the film she confesses her love through the moonlight and the soundtrack of Adele, on the other hand, every time you can, your claws automatically they stick out and you become a mean man.
For example, when your boyfriend says that the girl is pretty.
Or when something nice comes out. Not you.
If I was MAKE UP like that, I look so pretty too
One of my favorite, feminine texts – available almost under every beautiful photo of an actress, friend-model, or girl who is considered attractive by a group of colleagues. For some reason, some women CANNOT survive that there are other pretty girls.
In fact, they are certainly not so beautiful. Certainly it’s Photoshop, makeup, hairstyle, professional make-up artist, clothes, money or an Instagram filter, because it’s IMPOSSIBLE for someone to be just nice and yet have the audacity to take a picture for others to see. Because, of course, when we take a photo it’s very spontaneous, but when a photo is taken by a beautiful woman, it is definitely for others to admire her. FOR SURE.I am also amused when women who write or say such comments deny that they do not speak so jealous, but simply express their opinion. Of course. We all believe you.
BITCH! Double standards – something that annoys me the most. No one is angry at men who love high heels, short skirts and sexy outfits, and sometimes look at photos of women dressed in this way: this is considered normal. But when a girl throws a photo in a more or less sexy pose, she wears more or less feisty tights, puts on a short mini or so it will be – what a misfortune! – you can see a piece of breast, conversation begins and even quarrel and jealous women!What a bitch! How can you dress like a prostitute? What a provocative outfit! Blablabla. Always the same. The most interesting thing about all this is that in 90% the authors of these texts are … other women.
As if this short skirt, neckline, buttocks disturbed something and destroyed the day. As if the fact that there are other attractive women in the world besides us was so terrible that we can’t survive him. As if none of us – with a hand on our hearts – would never have dressed sexier for our man or not.And then somehow we are not whores. But every other woman – yes. What nonsense!Let’s arrange: I would not throw my photo in underwear on instagram with an open ass and mouth like a duck’s beak, but I have nothing against the girls who do it. I follow some of them because they are often American trainers who motivate me to act. The short skirt didn’t hurt me, so why should I have a problem with her owner?The fact that you call someone a slut because he is dressed short does not mean bad about him but about you. That’s the truth.
SURE IT IS SUCCESS THROUGH THE BED It is said that people are generally jealous, but when I remember all the unpleasant comments that I saw somewhere on the web about some stars, they are always written by women. Always. I do not know where it comes from, I know that we are quite jealous.When our butt burns, because someone else is successful, we go through ourselves in coming up with texts that can offend someone. Sperm whales and pates are flying, texts about the fact that if she had a child, she would certainly not be so slim, or that what about success, since her husband is cheating on her.Such a note: telling someone that he has anorexia / is fat / ugly / has a job by sleeping with his supervisor / is a whore, does not express his own opinion or opinion, but is rude. Nobody will tell me that insulting someone and defending “free speech” is logical. No, it’s not. I wonder how such girls would react if someone came to them on the street and said: “hey darling, you’re fat! That’s how I express my opinion. “
WOMAN FOR WOMEN ENEMY It’s sad that instead of supporting ourselves, we often prefer to muddy ourselves, to put our feet on the ground, to say something stinging or to talk behind us. Hello, we should stick together! After all, who run the world? Girls!However, I have the impression that some of us treat being a woman as competition. You know, eternal competition – which is a better mother? who is a better girl? Who is more attractive? Which one is more successful? Which one is slimmer?Damn it girls Why do we need it?? In a world in which we are judged anyway, whether we want it or not, in a world where we often look at a pretty face and nothing more, in a world where it is sometimes really difficult to be a woman, we step by as if we were not enough, we fought stereotypes and obstacles.Think how beautiful our buttocks would be if we relaxed for a moment and instead of constantly carrying a stick in a known place, they patted each other on the back and said: well done, girl! I’m so proud of you.
“I am not at this age when you unknowingly commit silly things. At my age, nonsense is committed on time and with pleasure “
With amusement and distance I watch people who love to advise others what is wrong and what is wrong with them. When I hear these terribly serious and essential issues, I have a great desire to do something. And that’s how I do it. Oh yes, I do things that are inappropriate for an adult woman, and my list of “sins” gets longer every year.
I ride a bike, rollerblades,I jump on the rope,I collect wild flowers and make wreaths from them,I’m watching Tom and Jerry,I also remember Bolek and Lolek It can be said that I am a very lucky person. I had a passion for movement from my childhood, and my sentiment for it today allows me to do what is theoretically assigned to children and young people. Fortunately, I meet more and more people for whom rollerblading or jumping on a trampoline is a form of physical activity, not a blockage in itself, because it “doesn’t fall out”.And as for the fairy tales, if one would skip productions dripping with pink brocade and the characteristic squeak of a Barbie, one could say that many of the current fairy tales draw parents as much as their kids and I belong to them.
I’m happy as a child from the new organizer,every purchased book, CD,another coffee mug In this context, the saying: “small and enjoys” takes on great significance. For some time, smaller things have been giving me more joy than big ones. I like to enjoy small things, and I’ve become so “meticulous” ever since I began to value life more.I don’t expect to win the Lotto, I don’t think I will travel around the world, so I enjoy everyday, small joys and I’m not ashamed that the most banal ones give me a lot of pleasure.
I am intoxicated with trifles, birds singing,green grass in spring, I used to rush, today I also live intensively, but the difference between one day and today is that now I can stop and see the world around me – this one outside work, outside duties, outside arrears.When should I enjoy all the cool things that happen to me, if not today? In 10 years, retired, in heaven? Why wait when I can live from now? I do not want to regret, throw away and grumble that I missed good moments, that there was not enough time for joy, that children grew too quickly.Today, a walk in the woods, drinking your favorite coffee on the terrace, inspirational conversation during dinner are more important to me than a compliment from a friend in high school.
I practice healthy selfishness For this I had to mature, but it was worth waiting for the moment when I devote myself to my favorite activities with a calm conscience. Today I have no problem with taking time to myself, leave the house, leave for a few days, although I try not to do it at the expense of others.Thanks to the fact that I care about my development, physical and mental form, I have no frustration, resentment against the world and I do not regret that my life does not look like I planned a few years ago.
If we wanted to gather in one place the advantages of reading books, such a list could be endless. Acquiring knowledge, developing our own interests, imagination, increasing the amount of words we use every day are only a fraction of the benefits of reading.It’s synonymous with development for me. In theory, therefore, logically approaching the subject, we should do everything to be able to read, learn and develop more.
Today a woman (a little at her own request) has more classes on her head, but this is not the only issue that distracts us from reading books. Men also have more of them.We just work harder today than in times when we miss so much. With a single click we can reach articles and news that allow us to learn regularly.We have never had such easy and quick access to knowledge before. Often deprived of propaganda, because the internet is the only place where we can directly respond to what we read and where it is easier for us to verify that what we read is true.The internet has many advantages, but it can also be a trap. You have certainly witnessed panic caused by headlines. This usually happens with various political scandals, blown up protests. People read titles and start to panic. They share such content on their social profiles, often without reading the articles to the end or not delving too much into the roots of the portal.
Although I have read weaker books, I still think that this is the most serious and comprehensive form of acquiring knowledge.No article can contain as much information as in a book. Often, a whole series of columns must be created to be able to learn more about a topic of interest to us, and even then it has no way to 300 pages of condensed dose of information. You need to be a little more prepared to write a book. After all, every author counts on some success.
But we don’t have time for books today.Even if we find one or two free hours a week, it begins to enter some kind of luxury. Reading for pleasure with today’s lifestyle and increasing expectations does not seem to be a rational choice, so yes, reading is a luxury.
Although we have more on our minds and our lifestyle has changed, no matter how much time we devote to work, hobbies, housework or social life, we can divide all these daily activities into two groups: more and less engaging. Something that potentially distracts us from reading may not necessarily prevent us from acquiring knowledge.Especially since our divisibility of attention increases. At the same time we work, we have facebook, YouTube and news from around the world launched. We can focus on several things at once. We often listen to music while doing something.
Women take on male characteristics and want to cope alone because they have no support in men. A typical guy of the 21st century is associated rather with weaknesses, addictions, and sluggishness.It is no wonder that women prefer to cope on their own, having to choose themselves or a person without any rules.We complain to each other that all real men are already extinct, that there is no chance to find a decent guy, but are we not contributing to the extinction of this species?
Responsibility –Once (I use this term as a tribute to times that inspire me) a man “took” a woman under his care, just as a child takes care of.He was responsible for her. Sure, there were betrayals in those days too, and this will be an argument against some, but somehow I get the impression that it is today’s betrayal is the order of the day. “If not this one is different,” “Flirt with a work colleague?What’s wrong with that? “ In this arrangement, I do not know if those old times, when there was “ignorance” and shame at what others would say, were worse. Today, women want to be responsible for themselves, which breeds rivalry between the two sexes.They added their duties at their own request.They taught men that they do not have to be responsible for us, because they do themselves well and will strive to completely take over this particular feature. For me, however, the natural feminine feature is the desire to have a strong support in a man and it is our responsibility. Find this strong arm.
Definiteness- do you value your partners firmness? In fact, why can’t a woman be firm? Who will decide whether firmness is to be feminine or masculine? Women also want to be firm.Unfortunately, the same automatically underestimate this feature in men just suppress it.They prefer to take matters into their own hands. But is firmness a natural female trait? We women want everything at once, here and now.It is the man who rationalizes, while the woman eternally analyzes. Therefore, the natural feminine feature is the need to find this firmness in a partner, boyfriend or husband. Let us not be afraid of it and do not renounce it.
Support –women want to have bigger balls today than men. Men shrink, because instead of appreciating their every little effort, women prefer to show themselves what they can do.Why should a man try for a woman in such a system? If it is not appreciated anyway, only criticized? What do I think is feminine in this case? Don’t be ashamed to seek man’s support and let him be that support. For a woman, weakness is a rather natural feature, so why should we get rid of her?
Honesty-Women choose bad men themselves because it attracts them.Let’s take an example of a guy from the club. How can you assume that a guy who cheats (relative concept for many) his girlfriend or wife will never cheat on his current lover? Who deceives the woman, showing her later only lack of interest? Such a “bad” man, who gives only a sense of uncertainty, has become extremely attractive, and so-called “good parties” have become boring.Well, what kind of attraction is this guy who works, reads in the evenings, visits his grandmother on weekends, and goes to church on Sundays? Boredom, or worse. Women are addicted to the thrill and like to feel humiliated. I’m sorry, but it’s not feminine. So what is in my opinion? Being honest with yourself and by the way with other women.
Resourcefulness –women are resourceful and can take care of themselves, so why do they need a resourceful man? They work, cook, clean and raise children themselves. Let’s take Sara Boruc (wife of this famous goalkeeper), hated to the limit for her husband’s support. What’s wrong with that ??If a woman decided to raise children (which can also be called hard work), it’s her business! Yes, there are women who have to deal with and work at the same time, but that doesn’t mean it should look like this.Women who work 24 hours a day are not happy, I assure everyone who reads this. Femininity is a lack of shame that you depend on a man.
Intelligence-“Should a woman be intelligent?”Yes, she should. One does not exclude one another. In male-female relations, however, female intelligence should manifest itself slightly differently than male.Meanwhile, killing a man’s best traits becomes feminine. See, with guys, it’s like having to feed the ego sometimes.Make him feel that he is important and necessary. Admit him right, when he showed intelligence, wisdom, refinement. When he predicted something. It is feminine to appreciate a man and praise him so that he can feel good next to us.
Tidy-“I have to dress up, because if it does not go to another? . For what reason! He must love me as I am. “- a woman stops trying to get a man,because nowadays we have the feeling that if not this one is next. We do not strive for another person all the time and everything starts to fall apart.What’s more, women become more masculine, and any signs of order in a man are a sign of “gay.”I am sorry for that word. This is more a quote than my reserved term, but I think that this way I can present exactly what I think. I have the impression that women first choose such disordered men, and then they are very surprised that they do not clean and walk in the same undershirt for several days.Well, they don’t have to try, because women are not neat either. The advantage of swearing over normal words in one sentence, a pipe in your mouth, getting drunk at parties and showing intimate body parts. Pissing on the wall as well. I was and saw. Unfortunately, this is the order of the day and, by the way, it is a denial of femininity.
A helping hand-There are men’s duties and there are women’s duties. There is nothing wrong with this division of roles. Without him, women open the doors themselves, move the fridge, or carry other weights.Yes, it is possible, but none of these women are finally happy. Because the feminine trait is sometimes to take on unpleasant household chores and allow a man to do male duties – it is not always pleasant for him either.This does not mean that the boy is not supposed to help his mother at home, no. However, it is much more valuable for a son to take him to the garage, bring wood to the fireplace, use an ax or shovel.
Caring –another common feature, but with a slightly different dimension. Women lose themselves in their work and prefer to make a career.The vast majority are cold and calculating.Women do not want to be led by other women, because they get rid of all their natural qualities and turn their hearts into stone, while the natural feminine feature is concern for others. If they are cold as ice to each other, what should they be in relation to the opposite sex?
Every day, women increasingly renounce their femininity and renounce women’s rights. They want the men, all without exception. Nobody says that women are supposed to return home, to the kitchen and sit there scolded and enslaved. However, dear ladies, let’s not be surprised that finding the perfect man borders on a miracle, since we prefer to evolve ourselves, only to become self-sufficient and, at the same time, unhappy.
Love can change our life 180 degrees. I would compare it to oxygen.There is nothing to hide, you can’t live without love. Would you like to have a son similar to your boyfriend? This is a question that I think is worth asking yourself when you think of someone more seriously.It won’t decide anything but it certainly helps define feelings. It is difficult to reach such mature love today and we are all so impatient that we do not give ourselves the chance to wait for a special feeling.We want to be loved so much that we will do everything to be with someone. I think women should be more patient.This is our natural character trait, which we should cultivate and respect, and at the same time work on ourselves.
1.Innocent childish love I think we experience this in preschool. This is often accompanied by showing off in front of others, wanting to impress our boyfriend / girlfriend.It’s all so sweet and innocent, devoid of bad intentions. It is easy for children to say “I love you”, touch, stroke, hug and hold hands.This is the sweetest love in the world. The boys collect flowers, and the girls dress up for kindergarten and ask their mother to put a scandalous number of butterfly clips in their hair.You can often see fairy-tale behavior and inspiration from parents and what mum does for dad or dad for mum. Oh, if this kind of love could grow up and not turn into something completely different.
2.Unrequited love We’re growing up to middle school and high school age. There is a sense of shame, fear of humiliation, lack of acceptance and all other fantastic emotions that we love to remember so much;)It is harder to love here and nothing comes easy because peers would think ruthless. So often we fall in love with someone without reciprocity.We also go through various own problems related to maturing and self-discovery. Everything is so exaggerated: either too painful or too perfect.It’s probably the time when we can even idealize someone who is by no means the embodiment of our ideas about the perfect boyfriend. Such love hurts so much and we can heal it for years.
3.Youthful love / first love Appears most often in high school.If we manage our actions well, maybe it will also be pure love – see point 6.A love that can mature and become the most beautiful or one that spoils immaturity.Love, thanks to which we experience many other feelings for the first time, that’s why it is very important and can strongly affect our psyche and subsequent action if it unfortunately ends.It is often imperfect, sometimes it hurts and raises doubts. It also happens that it is also infatuation and fascination, which can last even several years.
4.Love full of desire It’s hard for me to put in two words what I mean, but I mean nothing but love full of passion and desire.It is hard to call love after all, because it is rather a feeling that lasts a short time and after which comes disappointment, a collision with reality. It’s a kind of feeling that literally turns off logical thinking and we are guided only by emotions.It happens to people who feel lonely and lost for a long time. Would you like to have a son similar to your boyfriend? Would you like to have a daughter similar to your girlfriend? In this case, the answer that falls most often was “no”. At least I think so. It is usually a temporary satisfaction of needs.
5.Self love I could devote this whole entry to this love. Everybody of all ages experiences self-esteem problems and there is nothing wrong with it if we aim for our own happiness. It is often confused with selfishness and narcissism. In my opinion, self-love has a lot to do with our dignity, how we treat our mentality and physicality. We should learn this love from a small age to later value ourselves more and choose our friends or partners accordingly.
6.Pure love Such love from movies and I do not mean here Fifty Shades of Grey . It’s the most powerful kind of love that consumes your body, soul and brain. It is said that it only happens once in a lifetime, and people who experience it are considered to be the happiest in the world. It’s a love that aims for the good of the other person and a constant willingness to help. It’s a sense of security and waking up in the morning with a smile, a sense of confidence. The love that each of us wants theoretically, but we can get lost in life when looking for it.
7.Love has matured Based on compromises, sometimes sacrifices. Love, which is accompanied by self-awareness but also the desire to solve all problems together. Based on lasting values, wise, flexible and forgiving. It is a complete knowledge of your needs and a certain harmony in the relationship.
8.Unconditional love More precisely, I mean the love of mother, father to child and vice versa, often also love for grandfather, grandmother. Love full of patience and willing to make the biggest sacrifices. It’s a love that forgives everything and doesn’t judge.
9.I think love A feeling that we often feel after a year or two of being with someone. This is usually a burned-out fascination / desire that blinded us to such an extent that we are in a difficult place and we do not know where to go. This kind of love also appears when one or two parties do not want to work. It is full of doubts, disappointments and constant questioning. It is also a light plague that needs hard resolutions and specific actions, because without them either everything will fall apart or two people will live in misery and sadness.
It seems to be something that has no particular impact on our lives.We often associate it with loneliness and sadness, and we derive joy from listening to music and talking to others. So what can a lack of sounds give us?
I was interested in how much good for our health and balance comes from something as prosaic as silence
Better memory
We all hear over and over about how intellectual activity ¬ logical exercises, reading and discussions – beneficially affect our memory and intellectual performance. What about silence?
As it turns out, it cannot be overestimated.2 hours a day spent in a calm, quiet environment help grow new nerve cells in the hippocampus.What does it mean? This is the part of our brain responsible among others for short- and long-term memory, including spatial memory, which often fails.So if you do not want to once again pan over the apartment in search of a wallet – and reduce the risk of dementia – allow yourself a few moments without noise and obligations.
A lighter heart
With the heart is just like our brain. We still hear to practice to keep fit.And in this you can lose moderation – let’s not go crazy.So can calmness help our heart? Here, again, hard science leaves no doubt https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1860846/ . Being in silence, even for 2 minutes, contributes to a decrease in the level of adrenaline and cortisol in the blood, a decrease in pressure and pulse, that is, in fact, to de-stress and relax.Interestingly, silence is healthier for our heart than time spent with relaxing music. So next time you plan to quiet down, just turn off the speakers.
Deeper sleep
You may have heard the term ‘light pollution’ in the context of an unnaturally bright night sky.This is particularly troublesome in large cities, where streetlights, neon lights and cars literally “shine in our eyes” even at night.
Being in silence for several dozen minutes before bedtime and at least a few minutes after waking up will make our sleep deeper, more relaxing, and may even help cure insomnia.
Looking for silence in various life situations can be a challenge. How to deal with it? There are many ways, and these are some of my best practices:
Quiet house – Any soft material in your home is an additional point to quietness.Large curtains, a spacious carpet and even ordinary pillows simply “absorb” noise, and make our place more cozy
Quiet items– In all items I use every day (phone and laptop) I have the quietest mode possible.Nothing disturbs your home peace like a sudden, loud bell or app alert.Because the devices are for us and not we are for them, why should I stress when an e-mail or connection arrives?Even the morning alarm clock is set to a quiet mode, in which the melody I choose increases gradually, thanks to which I wake up slowly.
Quiet thinking – It may sound funny, but I try to “think” more quietly.I do not shout at myself, I judge myself less and sometimes let myself get lost somewhere in my head. I do not wonder over and over whether I used my time 100% and whether I could do anything better.I also stopped blaming myself for any random failures. When we start thinking more quietly, this peace will “spill” outside – onto our home and loved ones. And this is probably the most important thing.
That’s a good question, right? You don’t have the impression that everything we do, we do for others, leaving our individual needs somewhere behind?We have too little time to devote to ourselves, while a family, partner, friend are in need. And work is the most important thing.Have you been asking yourself, if you are so important to others, why are you not important to yourself?After all, your physical and mental health serves those whom you want to help or work for, so save some time and yourself daily.The following questions will help you with these, whose answers are quite simple.
Have you drank today’s morning coffee while enjoying its taste and aroma? As usual, in the sweat of your forehead, did you tilt the cup, pouring a few drops on your chin and a freshly ironed blouse, straining indecent words through your teeth?And all you have to do is get up 10 minutes earlier and drink coffee quietly walking in the garden or browsing the daily newspaper. This is a good opportunity to take a deep breath and gather your thoughts before a challenging day.
Have you eaten your meal today calmly, take your time? Have you broken records again in the speed of eating your lunch (if you ate it at all) or consumed a sandwich without paying attention to what is inside it, because at the same time you read emails and responded to outstanding text messages?Not only your stomach needs food. Your senses also like to enjoy the view of your meal, and hastily absorbing dinner while doing other activities, you can miss the saturation signals that reach your brain.Let your body calmly digest the meal and regenerate before the second part of the day. That’s what lunch breaks are for work.
Have you been nice to each other today? As usual, at the end of the day, do you accuse yourself of not doing many things from the long TO DO list, thereby letting into your world the feeling of frustration resulting from the backlog being created?Well, you’re not the only one in this situation. It’s just that others are not overwhelmed with grief and self-resentment, that they were unable to do everything they had planned.If your plan is too ambitious for one day, you can’t do it 100%. You don’t have to be perfect in everything. End of story.
Did you do something for yourself today? You read a book today, listened to your favorite music, went to the cinema, with friends for dinner, for a walk, for a bike, for training in a sports club, for “girls’ shopping, for a relaxing cosmetic procedure, or maybe you did an overdue medical examination or just talked with someone close to you because you needed it badly? Did you know that 68% of women * – when they have time for themselves (!) – clean, shop and cook? This is not the time for you, this is the time for home and family.Only 26% of women * realize their passions
Did you even ask yourself what would you like to do today for yourself? The problem is that we don’t ask ourselves such questions at all. We get up in the morning thinking about what we have to do for others, ignoring our humble person. And don’t our needs matter? Are our emotions not important? Has our personal development ceased to matter to us? What about our health and well-being?I have not asked myself these questions for some time because I do not have to. I try to save time everyday for myself and only for myself. But before that I had to learn it, get used to it by my family and let them understand that I am also important to myself and that there is a relationship between taking care of my own mental and physical condition, and the fact that I have the strength, desire and enthusiasm to serve them with your support, take care of them and do household chores.
Find an hour a day for yourself For some it is a luxury, for others a privilege, yet for others it is a completely unreal thing.It’s a matter of planning and organizing your own time. So plan your day, including the hour for yourself using different (depending on what you do and how much time you can devote to non-professional life) time management techniques, set priorities, exercise assertiveness, improve your concentration and do something for yourself, otherwise You go crazy.
Slow your life I am constantly learning to contemplate moments even on days that make me dizzy when it comes to the number of classes. Like most modern women, I lead an intense lifestyle, I do too many activities at once, I take too much on my head, I don’t sleep well enough, I eat too quickly, I don’t have time to read books, but the moment of reflection comes and I return to the right track.My way to fight my obsession with speed is to consciously slow down. I remember (although sometimes it hardly comes to me) the principle “sometimes less is more”, I gain distance, give in to a moment of reflection and try not to trifle “mentally” blow me up and affect my relationship with the environment and family.
These are simple issues. What is difficult is their implementation. On the one hand, these are not things that we can not face, on the other hand, many people choose a different option than doing something good for themselves. It’s a pity.
The end of winter is probably one of the most difficult periods for us, because on one side we have reports that in a moment a wonderful and long-awaited spring will come, and on the other hand this moment does not want to come.The countdown to spring becomes less burdensome if I plan specific actions and I’m a master at making time waiting for what I want. I usually think of classes that absorb me so much that before I see them, what I am waiting for is coming.
However, I like to prepare well until spring, to be able to draw energy from it and enter the new season without unnecessary ballast in the form of the word “I must”.I also don’t like the spring solstice, but I noticed that it is less painful if I do something that pleases me and although these are seemingly repetitive things, their implementation positively inspires me to change.After all, we associate spring with change above all.
I started the countdown a dozen or so days ago and consists of:
CHANGE OF WINTER HABITS,- In the past season, I learned something that I previously associated only with laziness.It turned out that basking under a blanket with a cup of hot tea and a book in hand can be a great relaxation and a way to calm down. In spring, everything that had to stop in the winter begins.
CHANGE OF DIET WITHOUT SPECIAL SUPERVISION AND PRESSURE Warming of dishes and hot drinks will gladly replace light salads and homemade water, I will limit the meat even more, and above all I will give up sweets, because in recent weeks my body has become interested in them again because of PREGNACY.In the spring, we all change the diet, but I remember a greater desire to experiment with vegetables, and these are the ones I miss the most, i.e. their large selection.In addition, the very awareness that I can get up earlier just to drink my morning coffee, which I sometimes exchange for a glass of water with lemon and prepare a light breakfast, which I will eat on the terrace in the fumes of freshly cut grass make me feel somehow lighter.So when it comes to diet, it is enough for it to be lighter, more colorful and varied, and its caloric content will automatically decrease.
SPRING CLEANING UP IN THE HEAD AND THE NEAREST SPACE I need orderly space for effective operation.Objects pounding around the house, clothes falling out of some wardrobes and cupboards, arrears in papers that are waiting for their better time are trifles that in a weaker moment can disturb my inner peace and normal functioning.
EXCHANGE OF WARDROBE AND INVITATION OF SPRING TO THE CABINET There is probably nothing better than hiding sweaters, pants, hats, jackets and shoes deep in the bottom of the wardrobe.Changing the season is a fully justified excuse to refresh the wardrobe, shopping and changing the style of dressing.Although I’m not planning any major metamorphosis, I’m always happy to introduce some new, characteristic element and even a small change in clothing.
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